07 August 2011

Two different pairs of eyes

Sita gets a call from her father,"your mother is very angry with you."

"why? what did I do now ?" She spoke into the phone half drowsy.

Two days ago Sita told her mother that she would not follow up on a matrimonial ad for her brother. The parents had already communicated to the "boy" who is in London, who may or may not have send an email. While the parents hesitate in insisting with their son, they did not mince words in conveying that the same does not hold true for her.

Sita politely refused, at the same time pointing out the differences in perspective towards the male gender, which she has always done while growing up. The same parents had kept Sita away to not influence her sister, who was born, raised and educated in Bombay and now lives a sad life in the village of Kerala, a decision taken by her mother.

Nostalgic memories of parental(mostly mother) treatment due to gender differences flooded her mind.
The parents had pressurized their son to do an MBA in a "phoren" university, but curtailed their daughters dreams to study abroad before marriage. For them the end goal of educating their daughters was a good marriage with as less dowry as possible.

Same set of eyes, but their view changed every time they looked at the boy child who is the mothers favorite. Sadly the father has no say,because his wife beats him down. The father keeps quiet because 2 empty vessels will increase the insanity of the house, little realizing that his silence has caused much harm to one of his daughters life.

When Sita talks about her dreams to her mother, she always has an immediate reason to hang up the phone - At that point there is someone at the door, or something is boiling on the stove, or the granddaughter needs immediate attention or she comes up with a reason that she has to attend to which cannot wait any longer. Sita knows that as long as her father is alive, he is silently cheering her and that keeps up her spirit.

When the time has come to get the best matrimonial deal she can for her son, the mother is roping in the daughter whom she physically and emotionally abused and may be even detests !

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